Sorry it’s been so long. I usually try to post at least once a week, but with the holidays it’s been hard to keep up. I’ve been wanting to blog about the items I use during calls for a while, but there were just too many other things that were way more interesting. Since I’ve started my job as a PSO I’ve learned that it’s a good idea to keep a few things on hand while you’re taking calls. It never occured to me that I might need tools other than my phone and my voice. But if you want to really satisfy your clients and make the experience a little… steamier, these things may help. A couple of nights after starting a client asked if I had any toys, giggling I told him I did. He wanted to hear it! I had a couple of issues with this request. First, the toy in question was across the room and well out of reach of the phone. Second, I wasn’t so sure I wanted to include a personal item in my phone calls, but I decided; what the heck, it can’t hurt anything. I couldn’t believe the reaction I got after I put it up to the phone! Suddenly my client was telling me what to do with the toy, how to use it, etc. Please keep in mind that I don’t actually masturbate on these calls. Who has the energy for that?!? Anyway, the point is, it really made his night. The other item I have found to be very useful is a silk stocking. One of the most common fetishes I get are leg, foot and stocking fetishes. The silk stocking helps me describe the feel and texture with more sensuality than just trying to remember the last time I wore them and what it felt like. When in reality the last time I wore them I couldn’t wait to get home and rip them off. Ahh, the subtle differences between reality and fantasy never fails to amuse me. So along with my silk stocking and sex toy I also keep a legal pad and pen. It helps to record my calls so I can recognize repeat clients and know who they talked to. In case that last statement threw you off a bit, I created characters to help facilitate client’s fantasies. You know – the blonde, blue-eyed babe, the sultry burnette and the naughty red-head. All in all, I have found that all of these things not only keep my clients happy and satisfied, it also helps me to keep it all straight and give them the best experience I can.
I received my first female caller last night! I don’t think I’ve ever been excited about a client this much before. Every PSO has heard stories of women calling in, but usually they are described to be shy and just beginning sexual self exploration. Not so with this client. She was very sure of herself, she definitely knew what she wanted. But unlike most male clients she was less demanding and more into the moment. The other difference I noticed right away was how verbal she was. Most clients will begin by talking normally, but it doesn’t take long before they are silent as stones. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with the strong silent type, but it’s very hard to know if your performing well for the client if they never have a reaction. I once even had a client fall asleep on the phone when he was done! After talking with this client I now understand why men like to call in so much. A woman’s voice has the power to be soothing, guilt inducing, and enticing. Before I never quite understood what the attraction was. Listening to her moaning in my ear and hearing how much my own words brought her pleasure only managed to increase my desire to please her. I find I do the same thing with male clients too. The more verbal they are the more encouraged I am and I enjoy my job more. Maybe it’s an ego thing, whatever it is, I enjoy clients that respond to my verbal stimulation. Also unlike my male clients, she stayed on the phone for a couple of minutes chatting about how much she enjoyed our conversation. I very rarely have a male client do that. Maybe one in twenty will say anything final before they hang up. More often than not, there’s an abrupt end to the call and it’s onto the next. Of coarse, I have only had one female caller, so I could be wrong. But as a woman myself I know that we are rather chatty creatures and enjoy talking much more than men. Well, it was an experience, and one I would gladly do again.
Okay, I’m a little late posting, life has this annoying habit of getting in the way. I’m learning as I delve deeper into this fantasy world I now employ that there are just some things better left alone. I’ve heard of some pretty unusual fetishes, so far nothing I can’t handle. Understanding them though, that is something entirely different. One of the most common fetishes I get a request for besides the usual stocking, shoes and domination is the infantile fetish. I can’t pretend to understand it, but I’m going to try. In one night I had two clients request this fantasy. My first client wanted to be changed and breastfed. The other wanted to be changed also, but wanted his ba-ba and binky. For those of you not familiar with this, there are adult diapers (both disposable and cloth) that can be used for this fantasy along with bottles, pacifiers and other “toys”. These clients want to be dominated, but not abused. They want to feel secure with their partner, not whipped. If there was ever a situation where a person can be completely and utterly dominated, it’s as an infant. An infant relies on it’s caretaker (usually the mother in these fantasies) for everything. But this fetish works both ways. The “Mother” figure usually requires some sort of thanks in return for the care she has shown her “baby”. I’m sure you can figure out for yourself what that might be, it is sex play after all. Of all the fetishes I have encountered before, this is the most interesting. Men are naturally dominant and often prefer traditional domination fantasies in which they are forced (by their own choice) to be submissive to a very sexually confident woman. With the infantile fetish the “baby” is truly giving total control to his partner, I think that demonstrates a level of trust that’s very hard to find in a relationship, even an established one. I’ll admit that if my husband told me he harbored this fetish I might freak out a bit. I don’t want that kind of control over a physical partner. But as is the general rule in the phone sex industry… anything goes. For those of you wondering if this is legal, the simple answer is ‘yes’. But there’s some gray areas that need to be tread carefully. For instance, the whole molestation thing comes into play. This fantasy is most common in male/female relationships and often the man is the baby and the woman is the mother. However, the man does not want to fantasize about his real mother! He just wants to be mothered. Boy, a therapist could really have a blast with some of this stuff! And because this is a form of domination the woman takes a role that while caring, is very sexual and commanding in nature. She wants to control when her “baby” eats, sleeps and when he’s changed. These things are done in a very suggestive manner with both partners merely playing these parts, not truly thinking they are mother and child – at least, I don’t think so, but I could be wrong. I think I’m getting to in depth with this one, but you get the point. Unusual? Yes. Hard to understand? Not really. Just goes to show that you really do need to have an open mind.