In my last post I focused on the down side of being a phone sex operator. That wasn’t really my intention, but as usual, my rants seem to find some sort of focus. Never fails to amaze me. There is a lighter side to this job, it’s not all bad. If it was, I wouldn’t do it. For one thing, there is very little to no stress involved. Except when it comes to money, but that stresses everybody so that’s null n’ void here. Setting my own hours has been a huge plus for me. I have a life and I don’t like being at the the beck and call of a boss. Then again, who does? I also have kids and I like being home for them. So if they get sick or have a day off from school I’m not using up vacation days and making requests to some asshole who doesn’t care that I have a family. Wow! I gotta tell you, that last sentence is very empowering. I don’t have an asshole for a boss! I think I’m feeling a natural high right now. See I told you – no stress. While the money I make is not great, it is easy. It doesn’t take a genius to moan into the phone and tell a client how much you want to be banged by them. At the same time it is challenging, and definitely not boring. No two days are alike and no two clients are alike. I personally hated doing the same job every day with absolutely no change in my routine what-so-ever. Besides, getting that much needed kudos was nearly impossible. No, it was impossible, that was why I quit. I found more satisfaction in turning my clients on sexually. There is your ego to consider. While not all clients are respectful, or even decent, there are many who succumb to the charms of a sexually confident woman. More often than not, I find my clients are thanking me for my services or telling me how incredible their orgasms were. You can really hear the gratitude in their voices, and then you know it was a job well done. There is no end to the creativity involved with this job. From the more mundane issues of any job – trying to make more money – to using your imagination to create a fantasy. I once read an article that said the most common male fantasy was the “Naughty Nurse”. I’ve never once received a request for a nurse. Besides, where would the challenge be? I have to admit, that the most common request I get is to describe blow-jobs. This isn’t really surprising if you think about it. I’ve also learned that phone sex is not limited to the lonely male population either. I have gotten calls from lesbians, gay men, transsexuals, couples and men on three-way. There is nothing safer than phone sex to explore your most lurid fantasies without causing any undo damage to yourself or your relationship (assuming you have one). Couples who want to explore including a third person in their sex, but aren’t really comfortable making it a reality, can use a PSO to make their fantasy much more realistic and satisfying. And there is absolutely no judgement or messy emotional issues to deal with. Once they hang up, they are back in their cozy and safe world knowing that they can add a kinky spark when they choose to. Helping people explore their sexuality is also very satisfying. I am not a professional equipped to handle the psychological impact of a sexual identity crisis, and I make that very clear to my clients. But I am an open minded individual that won’t make a client feel guilty for exploring new avenues of their sexuality. The most profound thing I’ve learned so far is how limited my own views on sex was before I became a PSO. I no longer view porn as the enemy and I have a healthier outlook on my own sexuality. I used to feel so threatened and angry if my husband used porn as an outlet for his release. It took me a long time to learn that it only gives him a little variety and is not used to judge me against the perfect hard-bodies portrayed. This job has also brought us a lot closer. And rather than turn away disgusted when he would watch a porn, we now watch them together and find that sex has become more fun because of it. We also talk openly about things we never would have before, from infidelity to hidden fantasies. I never talked about my personal fantasies before, I thought it was wrong or would make him angry. Boy was I wrong! A lot of women seem to think that if a man is calling a phone sex line he must be unfaithful. Nothing could be further from the truth. In my last post I said that I have received offers from clients that get too attached. What I didn’t tell you was that every single one of those clients was not only unattached, but haven’t been able to find the partner they are desperately seeking. Half of my clients are single, but just as many have girlfriends or wives who are not available. Whether they are away on business, out for the night or simply sleeping, these men miss their partners. I can’t begin to count how many times these men have described their partners to me and said how much they love and adore them. But they’re horny and they can’t seem to get the satisfaction they crave. So what do they do, they call me to talk about their wives! More often than not I don’t have to say much. The client just starts talking about their partner and soon he’s got a great fantasy to make his night. There was another side to phone sex I never would have considered, I perform a civic duty. With the war in Iraq, I have been getting many soldiers either just returning home or getting ready to leave. They all have one thing in common, they want to get their mind off of it, even if it’s just for a few minutes. I don’t want to know what they’re thinking about or what they’ve seen and they don’t want to talk about it. CNN and numerous blogs answer any questions I might have in that regard. They, like every other client, are seeking an escape from reality into a fantasy world where stress is left behind and sexual pleasure is the only concern. It doesn’t hurt that I have a thing for men in uniforms either. I talk to many people from many walks of life all over the country and they all want one thing, sexual satisfaction. And I get to provide it on my own terms. If I’m not comfortable with a particular fantasy or don’t know how a client wants me to perform a particular fetish, I just tell them. That’s my right. I may not be able to hang up on them, and there have been times I’ve wanted to, but I can set limits. You want me to be the sexy babysitter? Can do. You want me to be sixteen? Sorry Pal, not happening! The power I get to exert is exhilarating and I’m only limited by my imagination. Maybe it’s not the perfect job, but I could do worse, and I have. Just like there are good days and there are bad; there is an upside and a down. I hope I’ve illustrated them well. Like I said, I’m not here to lure clients. I’m here to tell it like it is. You don’t like it – not my problem. Was that harsh? Maybe, but that’s the beauty of the blog.